Dating Yourself is the New Normal

There’s beauty in solo-ness.

Honestly, have you ever considered just dating yourself? Everyone has their own season for romance and relationships. When you get that feeling that is not your season, simply embrace it. You’re patching a band-aid on your self-love pursuit when you avoid inner-self work. Rushing into commitment or trying to mend ancient history with a toxic ex is so passe.

The idea of new beginnings with someone new loses its glossiness when you haven’t taken the time to end or heal bad patterns. Entertaining new fate when you’re not truly healed can get really messy.

So, get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Tap into the depths of who you are. Do the fearless thing. Put one-hundred-percent into you. At the end of the day, the most important relationship you can have is with yourself.

Take yourself on dates

Go on a solo coffee date after lecture. Off next weekend? Get dressed up and grab sushi from that downtown spot you’ve been eyeing. Getting notifications about that upcoming music gig? Take it as a sign to take yourself.

What fun is waiting around for an invite, or text from that flaky emotionally unavailable adult-child that you keep hopelessly devoting yourself to? They, or anyone else are not your ticket or green light to get dressed, feel special and leave the house. You do not have to be that person who misses out on living life, just because you’re single.

Solo dates can be pretty fun. You learn a lot about yourself, and you do the things you want. Sometimes your solo adventures become the best memories.

Level-up in your personal life

Mind. Body. Soul. Embrace your solo-ness by attending to your mental and physical health. It’s your time to be consistent in the gym. Dominate in your academics. Truly devote time to your hobbies, and learn how to monetize them. Because, seriously, would you date the present you who has taken ownership for all the goals and plans you’ve put on the back-burner? I thought so. Build yourself up by doing things that will level you up. The energy you put in stringing along unpromising suitors can go into your personal life. Set real intentions for yourself. It’ll build your inner confidence and drive.

Re-evaluate your interests

What makes you, you? What makes you feel alive? What are the things that you have outgrown? Understand who you are. When you’re overly invested in a relationship, you can lose sight of the things that empower you. You can also lose your interests and independence. Being solo allows you to see clear-as-day what you genuinely like, and can no longer tolerate. Ha, maybe you only liked that one particular trap album because your ex did. Or, you you realize that one show you both binged on Netflix was really not your taste. Give yourself time to curate and reevaluate all the little big things in your life. It’ll bring you a step closer to the type of person who are. Maybe all along you’ve been a travel blogger, fashion stylist or fitness guru.

Cheers to gaining back your independence and unraveling all the layers that lead to the real you. Scrolling and seeing cutesy couple selfies on the gram, and hearing about relationships left in & right will never go away. Just know that you have the power to own your singleness and solo-season.